my last post i briefly touched on a situation between myself and a couple of friends which has been ongoing for some time. just to update, i finally had the 'talk' with these friends. again, i think it's only right that i don't go into great detail or name the friends, but the current situation really went back a lot further than i thought. about the time when i left taiwan. so, basically three years of shit had to brought kicking and screaming into the present in order to forge ahead into the future. it was a long conversation, full of tears and anger, but everything that needed to be said was said and i feel better for doing it. it also made me realize just how my decisions at the time really laid the foundation for friendship this time around...it's also made me realize that i may preach openness when it comes to communication, but i don't always practice it.
in the end, we all felt better for getting things off our chest and have decided that it's time to make a new start. reset. clean slate. friendship isn't always the dizzying highs and if there are problems, we need to communicate them to each other. it's going to time and effort, but the rewards in the end are nothing short of untold riches...and i feel damn good about that.
the party this weekend was great. i was a little worried about the guest list. i know the invitees, but there has always been a buffer friend between us so it always feels a little weird hanging out for the first time. honestly, the awkwardness evaporated in about ten seconds and it was just a good time. everyone kept commenting on how nice it was to hang out with some different people and what a good job leesh and i did in bringing together an excellent group. so, a huge success and now i have built or at least strengthened all these new relationships.
feels great to be sailing on the 'friend' ship once more.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Saturday, October 9, 2010
fall update
another month has passed and once again, i've neglected my blog. i've simply run out of excuses when it comes to updating and the real truth is, there really isn't all that much to report. however, this tiny voice inside me is urging me to post and post i shall to silence the wee bastard. and away we go...
i have been laying low over the last month. it's been another month of saving cash, well maybe not saving, but not spending. whichever way you want to slice it, i haven't been out and it's actually felt pretty good. more energy, mental clarity and more drive to do things. it kind of came at a good time as well because there really hasn't been much going on...just the time of year when school is back in full swing and halloween parties are still a long way off.
having the last month off from the social scene has also given me some time to re evaluate the people who i spend time with. without going into too much detail, there are some issues surrounding a couple individuals that need to be dealt with, but then i thought that i need to stop wasting time and energy thinking about these people all the time. i accommodate waaaaaay too much and the results end up with me being cranky and drained emotionally. i always start with ways to change my behaviour, 'cos every problem has two sides to it. when it comes to friendship, i give one hundred percent but ask for that in return. is that too much to ask? i'm finding out that for some, it is too much. so, i'm turning over a new leaf and doing what i want to do from now on...invites will always be extended but come or don't....i don't need to beg.
enough about that...what else, what else...our long and treacherous love affair with honda canada is at an end. we officially no longer lease our car and it feels great. a whole year has gone by with making payments and insurance on a car that we neither need nor use. frees up a ton of money which can now be used to shore up the savings account. add that on top of my increased salary at my job and we be rolling in it.
speaking of work, i've now a month under my belt and feeling more settled and relaxed. the first two weeks were disorganized and me trying to find my bearings. then it got better and this week was great. i'm working on some really exciting projects and using my creativity at full volume...feels fantastic. it's a little hard to believe that i work for the same company because the departments are like night and day. the pace, the stress, the boss...she is a normal, human being with thoughts and dreams and just plain cool. it's so nice to work for someone that i understand and can respect.
up and coming is our long overdue housewarming party next saturday which promises to be a lot of fun. we're keeping it casual....just good company, good conversation and good times are the major themes of the night. as such, we're trying to put the finishing touches on the apartment....some art, fixtures, etc to get the place shipshape. halloween is also just around the bend and looks like we'll be attending monster massive which looks incredible....benny benassi is coming to town for it so it will be a deadly night of music. not too sure what i plan on being for halloween yet, but i am taking into consideration where i will be and what i will be getting up to. it needs to be simple, movable and no accessories this year. just a costume, some makeup and nothing more. skeleton is looking more and more appealing.
also purchased our flights home for christmas so very excited for that. only have about nine days at home, but it's cool...going to be nice to soak in all the holiday season spirit and see our families. the only crap part is that we will have to fly out on january first late in the evening in order to make it back in time for work. oh well, we might have a...ahem...delayed flight along the way? yeah. that'll do.
think that does it for now...will update again postparty.
i have been laying low over the last month. it's been another month of saving cash, well maybe not saving, but not spending. whichever way you want to slice it, i haven't been out and it's actually felt pretty good. more energy, mental clarity and more drive to do things. it kind of came at a good time as well because there really hasn't been much going on...just the time of year when school is back in full swing and halloween parties are still a long way off.
having the last month off from the social scene has also given me some time to re evaluate the people who i spend time with. without going into too much detail, there are some issues surrounding a couple individuals that need to be dealt with, but then i thought that i need to stop wasting time and energy thinking about these people all the time. i accommodate waaaaaay too much and the results end up with me being cranky and drained emotionally. i always start with ways to change my behaviour, 'cos every problem has two sides to it. when it comes to friendship, i give one hundred percent but ask for that in return. is that too much to ask? i'm finding out that for some, it is too much. so, i'm turning over a new leaf and doing what i want to do from now on...invites will always be extended but come or don't....i don't need to beg.
enough about that...what else, what else...our long and treacherous love affair with honda canada is at an end. we officially no longer lease our car and it feels great. a whole year has gone by with making payments and insurance on a car that we neither need nor use. frees up a ton of money which can now be used to shore up the savings account. add that on top of my increased salary at my job and we be rolling in it.
speaking of work, i've now a month under my belt and feeling more settled and relaxed. the first two weeks were disorganized and me trying to find my bearings. then it got better and this week was great. i'm working on some really exciting projects and using my creativity at full volume...feels fantastic. it's a little hard to believe that i work for the same company because the departments are like night and day. the pace, the stress, the boss...she is a normal, human being with thoughts and dreams and just plain cool. it's so nice to work for someone that i understand and can respect.
up and coming is our long overdue housewarming party next saturday which promises to be a lot of fun. we're keeping it casual....just good company, good conversation and good times are the major themes of the night. as such, we're trying to put the finishing touches on the apartment....some art, fixtures, etc to get the place shipshape. halloween is also just around the bend and looks like we'll be attending monster massive which looks incredible....benny benassi is coming to town for it so it will be a deadly night of music. not too sure what i plan on being for halloween yet, but i am taking into consideration where i will be and what i will be getting up to. it needs to be simple, movable and no accessories this year. just a costume, some makeup and nothing more. skeleton is looking more and more appealing.
also purchased our flights home for christmas so very excited for that. only have about nine days at home, but it's cool...going to be nice to soak in all the holiday season spirit and see our families. the only crap part is that we will have to fly out on january first late in the evening in order to make it back in time for work. oh well, we might have a...ahem...delayed flight along the way? yeah. that'll do.
think that does it for now...will update again postparty.
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